I recently read the book, Think Like a Monk, by Jay Shetty and found it to be really good. There are so many principals that apply to any person, in any stage of life, that I decided to write a summary post for you. Definitely take the time to read or listen to this book, but in short, here’s what I learned. I promise it will change the way that you think.
Quality > Quantity
This is in regard to relationships, experiences, time, and basic functions like sleeping and eating. Focus on what the author calls “single tasking” in which you give your full attention to the task at hand. If you are having a conversation, give that person your undivided attention. Have a high quality conversation, both of you deserve that. When you eat, slow down and focus on your food….the smell, how it looks, and how it tastes. Eat with purpose. And choose people who are in alignment with your values, which brings me to my next point.
Values
Our values can become easily tainted. You must clearly define what your values are so that you can define yourself. When we are constantly surrounded by media, comparison, and the judgement of others, our values can shift. How do you know what your values are? Where are you spending your money, time, and attention. Step back and strip down. (Not literally, of course) Take away the noise of others and really try to focus on what your values are. You should also focus on pursuing higher ones-service, gratitude, acceptance, learning. These things have been proven to bring greater levels of happiness to people when consistently practiced.
Constantly be present
Focus on one task at a time, being truly present. You will get more from the experience when you are being present in whatever it is that you are doing-eating, conversation, spending time with your kids, date night with your partner. Engage in the task at hand. Engage and appreciate.
Breath Work. Aligning with your breath is aligning with all of your emotions and feelings-good and bad. With practice, you can learn to breath for different functions-to calm, for sleep, and for energy and focus. Start taking a few minutes each day to learn to sit quietly and focus on your breath.
Think about Your Death
Ok, ok, I know how this sounds. But really, think about how you might feel on your death bed. What will you be focusing on? Will you wish you had done anything differently? If you can imagine your last days, and wishing you had not worked as much, make that change now. Are there any relationships you wanted to repair? Start now. There is no reason to approach the end of our life with regret. Live fully, and deeply.
In Summary
There are a lot of other really great points in this book, which is why I suggest reading it when you have some time. But even if you don’t, taking the above points and applying them to your life now will have an immediate and positive impact in your daily routines. If you choose to read the book, I’d love to know what your greatest take-away was and what you learned! Let me know in the comments below!